As a spouse or primary caregiver, you are intimately familiar with your loved one’s daily rhythms, habits, and capabilities. This close connection often means you’re the first to notice subtle changes. Yet, the moment of acknowledging that your loved one might need more support than you can provide, or more than they’re currently receiving, can be incredibly difficult. It’s often accompanied by a swirl of emotions: worry, sadness, guilt, and even a sense of being overwhelmed. This isn’t a sign of failure on your part, but rather a courageous recognition of evolving needs. In New Zealand, informal caregivers like you form the backbone of our health system, with around 480,000 people providing regular unpaid care for someone with an illness or disability. Many spouses provide care for their partners, and research from organisations like Carers NZ shows that caregivers often experience reduced health-related quality of life, particularly in mental health